The First Sign
The words and accusations are the first sign they start coming out and that is when you should consider yourself warned. Now is the time to be doing a thorough investigation and start distancing yourself if it’s beyond repair as I will share.
How are you keeping it all together and be able to work by staying positive and still going about your daily life?
Am I supposed to take the bull by the horn and forge ahead at the first sign?
Why would I let this situation drown me or should I say take control of me?
I thought I knew the reason why I was able to function. My desire to continue with my daily life was multifaceted. I thought I was strong or was it because I have children to provide for?
First Sign Of Their True Character
An individual’s true character can and will hide only for so long. The derogatory remarks start coming out of their mouth about you. Belittling words start to come out here and there. Their mannerisms start to come out too which means their true character starts appearing like a leaky faucet.
These individuals present themselves to you like they are well put together but the inner presence (evil spirit) comes out here and there, anger, rage, control, narcissistic behaviors.
Warning: It’s All About Them!
They love to flatter you is another first sign
- they flaunt about having money, they
- buy you things, they
- boast about how they are successful, they
- brag all the time about themselves.
They say hurtful things to you
- they start talking about your appearance,
- how you speak, how you talk with and to others, they
- tell you are not doing this right or that right.
The Game of Blame when you try talking to them about how you are feeling and how you will never live up to their expectations, they start saying mean things, they make you feel like you are worth nothing, they blame you for their messiness, etc.
It’s over or is it? You decide you are done, you want to leave but, they talk you out of it. They even tell you that you are going to regret this decision of yours, they beg and plea with you to stay, things go well for a bit, then the cycle starts again.
- How many times are you going to repeat these events with (this particular type of person)?
- When is enough, enough?
- What can you do to remove yourself from these elements?
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”
This is why I was able to survive and remain steadfast.