A Happy Wife Can Be Found
Those of us who are most bored, lonely, miserable, and filled with self-pity are not happy. Those of us can mean a wife that has children and who actually wants to be home to raise their children.
I call our workforce blurred vision. The most significant thing the workforce creates is a paycheck, stress, or maybe even PTSD. As women who have children, our work never stops.
Our Priorities
Where we are headed is largely determined by our priorities. When it comes to prioritizing what are you making your first priority? Is your first priority God? If God is not we must learn to evaluate what is most important to Him first.
Do you have a goal set for leaving the workforce? Is it that you need to pay down debt first?
Were you forced to return to the workforce for financial reasons? Have you honestly evaluated the costs of daycare, transportation, and work attire?
Staying in the workforce causes us woman additional work. Are you willing to make paying down debt your number one priority that will allow you to be home to raise your children?
What We Value
What we value most is often revealed by the amount of time we devote to it, the sacrifices we make for it, and the money we spend on it. Things we allow to distract us, by bringing satisfying feelings we get from a possession we have obtained or striving to obtain.
Misplaced Priorities
Have you misplaced what your priorities should be when it comes to becoming a mother? Life isn’t something that simply happens.
What sentence are you serving in your life? If I had to answer this question, I would call it a death sentence if I had to go back to work.
Unhappy women may be those who have never developed interests outside the realm of their employment.
Pivotal Moments
My pivotal moment was when I found out I was pregnant with my son. Pregnancy led me to have a new perspective on life, it’s short-lived. I didn’t want to miss out on him growing up. Remember that our babies are only little once. Only you can make a positive impact in their life. Trust me no one else has their best interest at heart. I will share what I mean later on in another post.
So, I choose to live an abundant life the one our Lord and Savior has spoken about. My decision to have children meant that I would be the one raising them. I didn’t have children to have someone else raise them. I did everything I could to be a stay-at-home mom even if this meant giving up worldly possessions for more important matters at heart.
A Good Woman
A good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds. Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it. Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long. She shops around for the best yarns and cottons, and enjoys knitting and sewing. She’s like a trading ship that sails to faraway places and brings back exotic surprises.
Is Up Before Dawn
She’s up before dawn, preparing breakfast for her family and organizing her day. She looks over a field and buys it, then, with money she’s put aside plants a garden. First thing in the morning , she dresses for work, rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started.
She senses the worth of her work, is in no hurry to call it quits for the day. She’s skilled in the crafts of home and hearth, diligent in homemaking. She’s quick to assist anyone in need, reaches out to help the poor.
Doesn’t Worry, Is Happy
She doesn’t worry about her family when it snows; their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear. She makes her own clothing, and dresses in colorful linens and silks. Her husband is greatly respected when he deliberates with the city fathers. She designs gowns and sells them, brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops. Her clothes are well-made and elegant and she always faces tomorrow with a smile.
When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say, and she always says it kindly. She keeps an eye on everyone in her household, and keeps them all busy and productive. Her children respect and bless her; her husband joins in with words of praise:
Does Wonderful Things
“Many women have done wonderful things, but you’ve outclassed them all!” Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God. Give her everything she deserves! Adorn her life with praises!
Is a woman’s great worth, a valuable human being. She portrays balance and is not locked up by the worldly values of having the latest and the greatest. A woman’s work is notably efficient in several areas.
Men Just Want To Be Happy
Men on the other hand give attention to such characters as Nehemiah, Job, David or Paul they’re recognized in the value and joy of involvement and accomplishment outside the boundaries of their occupations.
One of the young men spoke up, “I know someone. I’ve seen him myself: the son of Jesse of Bethlehem, and an excellent musician. He’s also courageous, of age, well-spoken, and good-looking. And God is with him.”
So Saul sent messengers to Jesse requesting, “Send your son David to me, the one who tends the sheep.” Jesse took a donkey, loaded it with a couple of loaves of bread, a flask of wine, and a young goat, and sent his son David with it to Saul.
David came to Saul and stood before him. Saul liked him immediately and made him his right-hand man. Saul sent word back to Jesse: “Thank you. David will stay here. He’s just the one I was looking for. I’m very impressed by him.”
After that, whenever the bad depression from God tormented Saul, David got out his harp and played. That would calm Saul down, and he would feel better as the moodiness lifted. So David got away and escaped to the Cave of Adullam. When his brothers and others associated with his family heard where he was, they came down and joined him.
A Happy Life
We can’t afford to overlook the important role we play in our children’s lives. Our children are observing everything we do.
No matter how many children you have it is important to spend time together and individually do some fun activities together.
As your children grow and mature learn to share the lessons you had to learn in life. These lessons will include what you learned from the good and bad choices you made. I would even go back as far as prior generations their grandparents or even better their great-grandparents.
Remember to love one another unconditionally. Listen with listening ears as they share what’s on their hearts.
- What are you presently developing in your life?
- Do you get satisfaction in your employment?
